A group of girls sit on the desks, chatting and laughing. Bored, I listen in on their conversation. One pulls her friend closer and whispers in their ear. As a result, they both look at each other and burst into giggles simultaneously.
“Exclusion is such a terrible thing,” the first one says to the group. “I hear it makes people feel really bad about themselves. It sometimes leads to serious issues too.”
I hold myself from replying. After all, I wasn’t part of their ‘#BFF’s Squad’ or on their WhatsApp group for the same.
To myself, and only myself, I scoff.
Funny thing is, this isn’t even the most hypocritical situation I’ve come across regarding this topic. Loads of people decide to be ‘socially aware’ even if they’re pretty ignorant about the whole background of the situation. This seems to be primarily because there are people out there fighting for justice and it’s becoming a trend to ‘be socially informed.’ I’m not saying that people should turn into Tumblr-esque ‘Social Justice Warriors’, but if you really don’t care about the topic or are just more comfortable with sticking to your lifestyle, it’s better to just say so and usually, people are happier when you have a reason for your opinion. In most cases, people are fine with you just doing your own thing as long as it doesn’t hurt other people.
You don’t have to know the exact description of someone’s sexuality, get their pronouns right every time or yell at guys to be socially accepted. As long as you’re making people comfortable around you, people will be more than happy to help you if you make mistakes. People can tell when people make a genuine mistake and when they’re being a jerk intentionally, so if you’re genuinely trying to understand, it’s not a problem.
You don’t have to change your views on a situation to be socially acceptable, and no one is going to come up to you and tell you that your view of the world is wrong unless it is genuinely hurtful. And usually, people are just fine with learning about how you see the world.
So, instead of repeating what you’ve heard from other people, do some research and figure out whether you have any interest in the topic. If you do, keep going. If you don’t, that’s fine too.
Just don’t invalidate other peoples opinions. That’s it.